Time To Talk Day!

Hi Guys today is Time To Talk Day! so im going to do a little blog about me!

This is me! just so you don’t get confused 😉

My Name is Sarah Dale, I am 22, and I have Been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) with episodic Depression and Anxiety, and Anorexia Nervosa.

well that’s a mouth full and a half! do I let it get me down. I try my best not to!

I was fist diagnosed with anorexia when I was 16 and it has only since last year i was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, although I’ve been struggling with it for years.

At one point I was so ill I did not think I would make it to my 20th birthday. my moods were so volatile and I took my dangerous behaviours(self-harm, eating disorder ect.) to the extreme as I relentlessly punished my body.

over the last few years I have improved dramatically, and this is thanks to my medication which helps soften and regulate my emotions, Dialectal Behavioural Therapy (DBT) which aim to teach me how to deal with my emotions, although I have a long way still to go!

I have my bad days where I’m very emotions run wild, self harm and restrictive eating urges are hard to over come, and the anxiety makes me physically sick, the depression makes me want to curl up in bed and hide from life, BUT I get there! I never let my mental health define me so don’t define me by it!

NPTC Newtown Level 3 Health and Social Care students being educated by the Black Cat Project

up to date, I have won NPTC Powys Student Excellence Award, come runner up in the BTEC National Award, set up the Black Cat Project and created a radio play called Cara with Fixers UK.

With Fixers I have appeared in local and national newspapers on-line an in print, been a a part of the feel Happy Eating fix to devise recommendations for Government to improve the care of those with eating disorder, I was apart of The Feel happy Fix to divise recommendations for Government to improve the care of those with a mental helth problem, which I represented Wales when we presented the 50 Recommendations.

Presenting the Feel Happy Fix Report- 50 Recomendations for Mental health

i was apart of Generation 2015 in the run up to the elections, i was invited down to the BBC studios in London to ask a question to Plaid Cymru leader Leanne Wood and Conservative leader leader David Camron. I was also interviewed by BBC Radio Wales for there Focus on Wales – Self-Harm program.

So you see, I am not ‘dangerous’, a ‘Psycho’, ‘need to be chucked in the loony bin’, and no I am defiantly NOT ‘a danger to your children’ as I have been told before. Personally I don’t care what you call me, I have sadly heard it all before. HOWEVER, what you say might stop someone from reaching out for help! so please be a little bit more PC… Pretty pleeeeaaaase!!

so at the moment I am taking my time to recover, I am focusing on my therapy so hopefully it won’t impact on my life so much, so I can get on with mylife.

Time for Zumba!

right peoples I’m now off to Zumba Class it helps me with my mood and is a healthy was to get out all those emotions without reverting to unhealthy behaviours. and yes I wear a short sleeved t-shirt! its taken me moths to get the courage to do so!. Zumba in long sleeved t-shirts is not fun I assure you!

Thanks for reading, thank you to everyone who helped me get here, and remember never give up! you can achieve anything if you put your mind to it!!!

Sarah Dale >^..^<

 

 

 

Mental Health and Memory

As you know mental health problems can affect your memory many conditions such as depression anxiety. Some of the medications to treat mental health conditions can affect them too. From personal experience I have found that my memory has become very poor over the years because of this. I forget things like washing up, shopping, attending appointments to taking my medication and what I have done in the past week. So here are a few tips to combat this.

• Get yourself a white board! – Put it somewhere where you can’t miss it, like the back of the front door. List everything you need to do that day and tick them off as you complete them. It is very satisfying to see what you have done, it also insures you remember you do all those important tasks.

• Use a diary! – putting my appointments or important dates in my phone, will guarantee I will forget and miss my appointments. Having a diary I carry everywhere with me. Insures I can check what I need to do and put in things I need to remember. Especially those pesky dentist appointments which are six months ahead!

• Pill boxes are not just for old people! – are you like me, have so many meds you forget when to take them? Or leave them at home? Well there is this amazing contraption called a pill box! My bill pox is six days a week, morning, noon, evening and night. And the days are removable!! Fantastic! I just pop the box in my bag and take them wherever I go! Whoooo!

• Notebooks are useful!– I can’t tell you the about of fancy notebooks I have been given for Christmas and Birthdays. Well put them to good use, white things that you have done in the day, your thoughts and feelings, which can come in handy for therapy sessions.

• Alarms are not just for waking up! – You can set an alarm for when you need to take your medication, you can name the alarm on your phone so you can remember to take your medication.

• Get a routine! – I find that if you have a routine for waking up and going to sleep you eventually get into a habit of doing things such as taking medication, putting the laundry on, washing up dishes ect. Not only does this help memory it helps you get a good night sleep too!! Yippee!

If you have any other suggestions let me know.

Any ideas for a blog post! what would you like to see? get in touch

Black Cat Project

Tips for Surviving Christmas

This time of year can be hard for everyone. It can be especially hard for those with mental health problems. So here are some tips for getting through the holidays.

• Don’t put unrealistic pressures on yourself. Perfection is impossible. If you accept things will go wrong, it will cause less stress and allow you to enjoy the holidays.

• Where ever you are this Christmas, at home or away with family, ensure you have a safe place. So when things get too much and you feel overwhelmed, you can go and distress so you can get your mind back on track

• Ensure you have enough medication to get you through the holidays.

• If things are too much, let someone know. Be honest about your feelings, so you can talk to someone and they can keep an eye out for you, and spot signs that you are struggling before you do.

• Limit your alcohol intake. Alcohol is a depressant, it may make you feel temporarily “better” but it will eventually lower your mood. Alcohol will mix with your medication which can have a detrimental effect.

• For those with an eating disorder, stick to your recovery plan, or eat little an often. It’s just another day, you don’t have to binge.

• Use breathing and grounding techniques for when things get too much.

• Going for a walk or gentle exercise can help lift your mood.

• Surround yourself with those you love, and say no to those who negatively affect you.

• And if Christmas is all too much, remember its only one day.

If you can think of anymore tips to help you cope through the festive season, let us know. www.facebook.com/blackcatproject.

We wish you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year from Black Cat Project. Stay safe and enjoy the season. >^..^<

 

http://www.time-to-change.org.uk/blog/surviving-holidays-guide-mentally-ill-and-everyone-else

http://www.seedeatingdisorders.org.uk/pdfs/user/AA2D4D81-9800-3295-3C1A-060590791F69.pdf

http://www.therapeandsexualabusehelpline.co.uk/christmas.pdf

Postnatal Depression: Suffering in Silence

When people think mental illness, they think Depression, Anxiety, Bipolar, schizophrenia and many more. But people forget that Postnatal Depression (PND) is a mental illness. From speaking to friends who have experienced Postnatal Depression they have been blamed for the illness or have been ignored by family members. Postnatal Depression is not a normal part of child birth. To me this is infuriating, especially as I have seen people go through this. One mother told me that there doctor refused to refer her to local Community Mental Health Team (CMHT) as ‘Postnatal Depression is hormonal and can be treated with medication’. This really doesn’t help with the feeling of they are the one at fault.

 

The Facts[i]

In the UK

• Approximately 33% of mothers who experienced depression symptoms during pregnancy went on to have PND.
• Approximately 25% of mothers still suffered from PND up to a year after their child were born.
• Approximately 58% of new mothers with PND did not seek medical help. This was often due to them not understanding the condition or fearing the consequences of reporting the problem.
• 33% of new mothers with more than one child reported suffering from PND; of this group, 54% sought professional treatment
• 26% of first-time mothers reported suffering from PND; of this group, 42% sought professional treatment

These facts are shocking and sad. It shows clearly that people need educating about Postnatal depression. Especially, because of the emotional damage and the bond between mother and child, and for the rest of the family unit.

 

So what is Postnatal Depression.

Being a mother can bring stress, worry and anxiety. Approximately 80% of new mothers go through a period of depression[ii] which is brief and manageable, called ‘baby blues’, or deeper and long term, called ‘Postnatal Depression . ‘baby blues’ disappear within a week or so, whereas Postnatal Depression symptoms are longer lasting and can sometimes interfere with day-to-day life. Symptoms can include feeling an inability to connect with or look at the new baby, and feeling too anxious to interact with friends and family[iii].

The charity 4Children says that it considers new mothers to have Postnatal Depression if they experience three or more of the following symptoms. Experiencing five or six is considered Severe Postnatal Depression[iv]:

• Low mood/miserable most of the time
• Constantly exhausted
• Feeling unable to cope
• Feeling guilty about not being able to cope or not loving the baby enough
• Overwhelming anxiety about the baby
• Tearful for no reason
• Difficulty in sleeping
• No appetite or the urge to eat
• Difficulties in bonding with the baby
• Difficulties in their relationship with their partner
• Low energy levels
• Low sex drive
• Withdrawal from family or friends

The most serious form of Postnatal Depression is Puerperal Psychosis (otherwise known as Postpartum Psychosis). It is an extremely severe but rare form of Postnatal Depression, affecting around two in 1,000 women. It tends to present itself within a few days after childbirth, manifests in erratic and delusional behaviour by the new mum and requires urgent hospital treatment. The symptoms of Puerperal Psychosis include: confusion and disorientation, hallucinations, delusions, paranoia and lack of insight and awareness[v].

 

Why don’t people seek treatment?

It is important for society and health professionals to be aware of the symptoms of Postnatal Depression and its most severe form Puerperal Psychosis. We also need to realise why people don’t seek help so we can treat suffers better and encourage them to seek treatment where they are treated with dignity and respect. Importantly, reassure the mother that it is not their fault, that it is an illness.

Shockingly 60% percent of those with Postnatal Depression didn’t think it was serious enough to seek treatment. Sadly 33% were too scared to tell anyone because they didn’t know what the implications would be for them and/or their child. 29% didn’t know that they were suffering from postnatal depression.[vi]

Theses statistics speak for themselves. I think it is sad that mothers are fearful of what would happen to them and their children. And that those didn’t think it was serious enough or didn’t even realise they were suffering from postnatal depression. It clearly shows that that more needs to be done to raise awareness of Postnatal Depression and reduce the stigma associated with the illness. It doesn’t help that the Media only reports cases where a mother, child or even both, have been put in sever dander or have sadly lost there lives. It is important to remember that those with mental health problems are more a danger to themselves. it is rare that children lose there lives, and if it does happen it is because of sever neglect from the services that are trained to intervene and protect lives.

It is encouraging that 28% said that they had enough support from family and friends, that they felt this was enough for them to overcome Postnatal Depression[vii].

But so much more needs to be done to prevent Postnatal Depression, and to support those with postnatal depression.

 

Living with Postnatal depression

A young mother, Grace, shares her experience of Postnatal Depression.

‘I can’t really put it into words what it’s like to have Postnatal Depression, because as some mental health issues you don’t always know that you have it. I was in a long term relationship (we both worked full time jobs) and even my partner didn’t see how much I was struggling inside. My behaviour changed, I wasn’t taking care of my little boy like I should have as a young mum.  It was almost like I put a barrier up, blocking all feeling and ultimately feeling numb, not just towards my son to everyone and everything and as much as I tried to ‘pull myself together’, however it’s not as easy as that.’

‘Having a traumatic birth have to say I think this had a main contributor in my illness. Because of my illness, I couldn’t look after my son and I couldn’t even look after myself.

My relationship broke down I moved back to my parents and my partner had my son full time. I also lost my full time job as a waitress because I couldn’t cope with the simplest of thing without bursting into tears and panic attacks constantly.’

‘I coped by getting drunk and consequently got me into all sort of trouble. When I eventually went to my GP he diagnosed me with postnatal depression. I was put on some anti depressants, and sent on my way.  I felt rejected by my GP. However, I didn’t take them because i was told by people about their affects on my health and addictions to anti depressants. So I did not take them and continued to get worse.’

 

Sadly for grace it got to the point where she could barely function, and returned to her GP.

‘It got to the point where I would only leave my bed for a drink or to use the bathroom.  I there was little else I could do. Even washing was too much for me. I eventually returned to my GP and was immediately referred to counselling. I also had my medication changed a few times. Eventually my Mum, not knowing what to do phoned the Doctors who advised me to go voluntary into a mental health unit, or be sectioned, as I was a risk to myself.’

 

However, grace found that being in a mental health unit helped her on her way to recovery.

‘In the unit, I was given more help and talking therapy. I also to some lovely people some of whom is still keep in touch with. I was discharged after three weeks. When I left the unit, I walked out the door happier and heather with the right medication it also changed my whole perception of mental illness! It really was an eye opener.’

‘Life now has changed forever, I feel guilty every day for what I put my family, friends and most of all, my son, and the stress I put them through. All I can do from here if hope people forgive and forget and enjoy my wonderful life.’

 

For those reading this if you take something from this story, it would be to reach out for help. Grace would like to you to see how quickly things can escalate, and urges people suffering to help.

‘Mental health has massively increased People need to know mental health illnesses because one day it could save someone and get them to a ‘safe’ place. I think all I have been through there was a purpose for it. It was unnecessary for my life to crumble but I honestly think the aim of my story is to try and help other people in similar situations. Things aren’t perfect and probably never will be, but things are good and I am a good mummy to my little boy and he is happy and healthy, despite all that has happened.’

 

I would like to thank Grace and her courage to share her story and wish her well on her road to recovery. Recovery is never easy but is possible.

For more information take a look at the websites below

Mind

Rethink

pre and postnatal depression advice and support

Postnatal illness

 

[i] http://www.nhs.uk/news/2011/10October/Pages/call-for-postnatal-depression-support.aspx

[ii] http://www.nhs.uk/news/2011/10October/Pages/call-for-postnatal-depression-support.aspx

[iii] http://www.nhs.uk/news/2011/10October/Pages/call-for-postnatal-depression-support.aspx

[iv] Give Me Strength: Suffering in silence –  A campaign from 4Children to avert family crisis  70,000 reasons why help with postnatal depression has to be better – page 6

[v] Give Me Strength: Suffering in silence –  A campaign from 4Children to avert family crisis  70,000 reasons why help with postnatal depression has to be better – page 6

[vi] Give Me Strength: Suffering in silence –  A campaign from 4Children to avert family crisis  70,000 reasons why help with postnatal depression has to be better – page 8

[vii] Give Me Strength: Suffering in silence –  A campaign from 4Children to avert family crisis  70,000 reasons why help with postnatal depression has to be better – page 8

Black Cat Project goes to Westminster!

On Tuesday 18 October I set off on a long journey from Mid Wales all the way to London. To then navigate the panic attack provoking London Underground to the grand houses of Parliament, for the Feel Happy Fix report launch!

For those unsure of what the Feel Happy Fix is, the Feel Happy Fix was an opportunity for young people to come up with way to fix issues surrounding mental health in six different areas. This are health care, work, school, home play (socialising) and media. The event was health in march 2015, at the British Film Institute in London. Roughly 300 fixers gathered at this event. The finding where complied into the Feel Happy Fix report

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The Report itself contains 50 recommendations within these 6 areas. And let’s say the MP’s seemed impressed!

There were 4 fixers in total Sarah(me), Jo, Gennifer and Andrew .

I kicked it off by talking about why being a part of the feel happy fix was important to me, and talking about why i got involved with Fixers, and my ‘fix’

‘For me to be a part of the research into the Feel Happy Fix report, to make an impact on young people’s lives are something I used to dream about. I came across fixers at a time when I had looked back on my past and realised something needed to change. My voice needed to be heard. I realised that the reason I was at the receiving end of discriminatory comments from my friends and peers was because of fear and a lack of understanding. So with fixers I developed an informative presentation about mental health to educate young people. We also developed a radio play entitled Cara, from a book I wrote. The radio play focuses on mental health issues such as Self-Harm, Eating Disorders, and how mental health affects an individual.’

‘The feedback from my presentations and radio play is amazing. Fixers have given me the key to my dreams, I have made a huge difference to young people’s lives and I will continue to do so.’

‘It is important that the voices of young people suffering from mental health issue are heard. To me that is the most important part of the feel happy fix report.’

Each of us got to discuss what was the most important parts of the report. Mine were:

Recommendation 4: Range of treatment options.

“ensure that serves are age appropriate and tailored towards individual needs.  this should involve a range of treatment options”

Recommendation 26: mental health education in schools

“make personal social and health education  (PSHE)  statutory requirement in the national curriculums, with a specific element of the programme dedicated to mental health teaching in all schools,  starting before senior school”

I explained about how i have received Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) 4 times and have not responded. CBT has little  effect on those with Borderline Personality Disorder. Dialect Behavioural Therapy (DBT) is specifically designed for people with Borderline Personality Disorder. I explained that at the age of 19 i was interviewed ,out of 200 people for 10 places for DBT, in the south of powys. Andi did not get in as i ‘did not want to recover’. I also explained how i had waited 3 years psychological therapy, which i only received for a few months. I explained how a variety of treatments need to be funded and made accessible for everyone, and for the right amount of time.

I also discussed how my presentations had made a young person realise they had a mental health problem and they are now receiving help from Child and Adolescent Mental Health services  (CAMHs). I believe mental health education can reduce stigma, allow peers to recognise sing and symptoms, support each other and know where to get help. It could help save lives.

At the end we had an answer and question session which was polite and friendly. One man, clearly not afraid to broach the subject, will the MP’s listen? will things change?

A change  is needed  desperately, people are getting seriously ill before anyone intervenes. How long can this go on for? I don’t know. What i do know is that as Fixers we won’t give up until we see a change, until mental health is addressed properly.

My work here is done! Black Cat Project AWAAAYYY…

We Are Survivors!

It’s time to talk about a difficult subject, but an important one. The after effects of abuse, can have a profound effect on a person’s life. It’s time to come out of the dark and scream at the top of our lungs that WE ARE SURVIVORS! It is import ant to remember that, whatever form of abuse, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. The blame lies with the perpetrator! So let a look at the forms of abuse.

Physical abuse

Physical abuse is deliberately hurting a child causing injuries such as bruises, broken bones, burns or cuts. This is not accidental, those who are physically abused suffer violence such as being hit, kicked, poisoned, burned, slapped or having objects thrown at them. Abusers will often make up illnesses or accidental injuries to cover up the abuse

Psychological /Emotional abuse [i]

Psychological abuse is the on-going emotional maltreatment or emotional neglect of a individual. it can seriously damage a person’s emotional health and development. Emotional abuse can involve deliberately trying to scare or humiliate an individual or isolating or ignoring them. Those who are emotionally abused are usually suffering another type of abuse or neglect at the same time. Although this is not always the case.

Sexual abuse

A person who is sexually abused when they are forced or persuaded to take part in sexual activities. This doesn’t have to be physical contact, and it can happen online. A child images of pornographic content is also sexual abuse. Abusers will go to lengths to cover the abuse up.[ii]

Neglect

Neglect is an on-going failure to meet a person’s basic needs. They may be left hungry or dirty, without adequate clothing, shelter, supervision medical or health care. They are in danger from physical and emotional harm. Neglect usually coincides with other forms of abuse.[iii]

Domestic Abuse

Domestic abuse is any type of controlling behaviour, bulling, threatening or violent behaviour between people in a relationship.  Domestic abuse in composes  psycological, physical, sexual, or financial abuse. This can happen to either men or women an can continue even after the relationship has ended.[iv]

Tips for Survivors

If you have made it this far despite the abuse you have experienced that is an immense achievement. Do not give up! Overcoming the effects of abuse is a challenge is a challenge in its self. So let me introduce Adelaide, who is a 23 year old survivor

Flashbacks and Dissociation

‘I suffer from dissociation and sometimes flash backs. A smell, a feature on someone face, tone of voice can trigger a flash back or dissociation. I was thought to stop the flashback or dissociation to stamp my feet to ground me, to remind me ‘I am here, this is the present’. Another way it to splash your face with cold water, to ‘shock you’ into the here and now. Smelling something that reminds you of present things, I uses white musk perfume. This is another way to ground you’

The Unanswered Questions

“why did it happen? Why me? WHY?’ this is the question I believe that I will never get answered but there are ways to express them, without confrontation. My Victim Support worker suggested I write a letter to my abuser (without sending it) it is something I do occasionally and it helps to get all those thoughts and feeling out of my head, such as thought and anger I feel towards my abuser, the questions that are in my head. It gets it out in a safe way.’

‘Another technique is ‘Pillow talk’, it something that is used in therapy a lot, first you talk to ‘the pillow’ as your abuser. You can yell scream show even punch your ‘abuser’. This can be really helpful. In therapeutic setting you are asked by your therapist to then revers the role. You are the ‘abuser’ and the pillow is ‘you’ and you answer the questions that you have asked. It is very therapeutic but I

Would not do it on your own’

Sense of Loss

‘Those who have been abused feel that they have been robbed of their self-worth and life. People also feel out of control and difficult to trust people. The way I tackle this is by telling myself positive affirmations. By engaging in therapy you can learn to gain control, self-worth and learn to trust. By going to your local mental health drop in centre, you can do this in a safe environed. Volunteering can help build up your self-worth and esteem.’

 

I Can’t See a Way Out

If you believe you are being abused or know someone who is being abuse. there is a way out, as a community we need to speak out and protect those most vulnerable because it IS OUR BUISNES TO PROTECT THOSE WHO ARE UNABLE TO PROTECT THEMSELVES. Even if you have a small think that may indicate abuse that could be the thing that protects that person from further harm. Speaking out is hard bus essential, you don’t deserve to be hurt and degraded, and people will believe you.  If you are being abused report it to the police. They can then ensure that you are in a safe place and that abuser can be brought to justice, and protect other from further abuse. Abusers don’t change, most abusers carry on to abuse as long as they go undetected. ‘I can tell you honestly, that speaking out was hard, but everyone was so understanding. It made sense to the professional why I was so mentally ill, which meant I was given the appropriate support to deal with all the issues abuse creates. It is worth it. Speaking as someone who is bin through hell and back. It was worth it.’- Adelaide

People don’t realise the power they have to put an end to the abuse someone is enduring. It is important to report all sins of abuse. This can be done anonymously to the police or social services if you are afraid of being found out. You could save a life!

‘when I look back on the time I was abused, I change dramatically from a quite hard working pupil, to a violent angry teenager. I hit and kicked people, and really didn’t care. It hurt that no one asked about my dramatic behaviour change, if only they had, I might not as suffered as I did.’- Adelaide

I hope this helps I truly do. But please remember:

YOU ARE NOT ALONE

WE WILL BELIVE YOU

IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT

YOU DON’T DESERVE TO SUFFER

PLEASE SEEK HELP

 

Below are some contact for support, if you would like you can message me on the Black Cat Project facebook page.

Ponthafren

nspcc helpline 0808 800 5000

Rape Crisis 0808 802 9999

Refuge 0808 2000 247

children’s legal centre

Kooth

Victim Support

[i] http://www.nspcc.org.uk/preventing-abuse/child-abuse-and-neglect/emotional-abuse/what-is-emotional-abuse/

[ii] http://www.nspcc.org.uk/preventing-abuse/child-abuse-and-neglect/child-sexual-abuse/what-is-csa/

[iii] http://www.nspcc.org.uk/preventing-abuse/child-abuse-and-neglect/neglect/what-is-neglect/

[iv] http://www.nspcc.org.uk/preventing-abuse/child-abuse-and-neglect/domestic-abuse

Suicide! No Laughing matter!

Suicide is a difficult topic for all of us. Suicide affects all of us. And the effects of someone completing suicide, doesn’t just stop with close family and friends. It affects the whole community. Wither you believe it or not, a few words can give someone who is contemplating suicide, a glimmer of hope, a reason to live. So let’s talk about suicide now! Let’s educate ourselves!

The hard facts

• In 2013, 6,233 suicides were registered in the UK. This corresponds to a rate of 11.9 per 100,000 (19.0 per 100,000 for men and 5.1 per 100,000 for women).[i]
• The male suicide rate is the highest since 2001. The suicide rate among men aged 45-59, 25.1 per 100,000, is the highest for this group since 1981.[ii]
• Male suicides in Wales rose by 23 per cent between 2012 and 2013. The rate for males (26.1 per 100,000) is at its highest since 1981.[iii]

As the graph below shows that Wales has the second highest rates of suicide.[iv]

This is particularly worrying. But why do people feel like it is the only option.

Why?

From personal experience. Sarah, 22

“For me it got to the point where I felt trapped. Each day I was just dragging myself through it. The pain of each day was extreme. I didn’t see and end.my eating disorder had completely took control over me, there was nothing of the ‘old me’ left. I could visible see the pain my mental health was causing my family. And that hurt most. I was considered not ill enough to be taken in as an in-patient. So I felt the only way to end this pain, and the hurt that I was causing my family. Was to end my life, I felt useless, worthless and pathetic. And felt the world could do better off without me.”

However

“With the constant support of my family, friends, and psychiatric team. I have the correct medication and talking therapy. I have the right support to get through the dark times and see that I can get through this and that suicide is only a permanent fix to a temporary problem”

What are the warning signs?[v]

Sometimes the warning signs are obvious that someone is at risk of attempting suicide. This however, is not always the case.

If someone is threatening to hurt or kill themselves, talk or write about death, dying or suicide or are actively looking for ways to kill themselves. If they have one, you could contact there care coordinator at their local Community Mental Health Team(CMHT) or Child and Adulterant Mental Health service (CAMHs). If you are unsure its best to contact your doctor, (or out of hours doctor) or your nearest accident and emergency department.

Other warning signs that a person may be at risk of suicide:

• Complain of feeling of hopelessness
• Have episodes of sudden rage and anger
• Act recklessly and engage in risky activates with an apparent lacl of concern about consequences
• Talk about feeling trapped, such as saying they can’t see a way out of their current situation
• Self-harm- including misusing drugs or alcohol(or increased use)
• Noticeably gain or lose weight due to a change in appetite
• Become increasingly withdrawn from friends, family and society in general
• Appear anxious and agitated
• Are unable to sleep or sleep all the time
• Have sudden mood swings-a student lift in mood after a period of depression could indicate they have made their decision to attempt suicide
• Talk and act in a way that suggests that they have no sense of purpose
• Lose interest in most things , including their appearance
• Put their affairs in order, such as sorting out possessions or making a will

If you notice any of these warning signs in a friend, relative or loved one, encourage them to talk about their feelings. Share your concerns with your GP or a member of their care team.

 

Offering Support[vi]

The best thing to do is to encourage them to talk about their feelings and listen to what they say. From personal experience, if you don’t know how to respond, say nothing! Just give them the time to express themselves, and love and support they need. Trust me this can go a long way, and make them feel loved and wanted. If there is any immediate danger, DO NOT LEAVE THEM ON THEIR OWN!!!!

Do Not Judge

It’s important to not make judgements about how a person is thinking or behaving. You may think their behaviour is making them worse. For example, they may be drinking too much. However pointing this out with not be helpful. Reassurance, respect and support can help someone during these difficult periods

Asking Questions

Asking questions can help extract information, and give you a better understand how the person is feeling. Open ended questions such as “where did that happen?” and “how did that feel?” will encourage them to talk. Its best to avoid statements that could end the conversation such as “I know how you feel” and “try not to worry about it”

Getting Professional Help

Talking to someone about their feeling can make them feel safe and secure, these feeling may not last. It will probably require long term support to help someone.This will be easier will professional help. If you are feeling suicidal or know someone who is feeling suicidal it is important to speak to your care coordinator or GP as a matter of urgency.

IMPORTANT INFO!!

If you are supporting someone who is having suiciadal thoughts it is important to look after yourself. If the person is deemed a danger to themselves or you feel unable to support them. Do Not hesitate to contact emergency services. It could save a life.

For more info, take a look at the NHS website, mind website or pop in to your local mental health resource centre.

take a look at our Where Can I Get Help page

[i]Samaritans – Suicide Statistics Report 2015 Including data for 2011-2013 12/10/2015

[ii] Samaritans – Suicide Statistics Report 2015 Including data for 2011-2013 12/10/2015

[iii] Samaritans – Suicide Statistics Report 2015 Including data for 2011-2013 12/10/2015

[iv] Samaritans – Suicide Statistics Report 2015 Including data for 2011-2013 12/10/2015

[v] http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/suicide/pages/warning-signs.aspx

[vi] http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/suicide/pages/helping-others.aspx